True Beauty

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  • How has the culture impacted the way you feel about yourself?-Sometimes I feel like I don’t fit in. In Utah, it was because I was surrounded by people that were a religion that I wasn’t. I got judged a lot for not having the same beliefs or values. Now I live in Washington DC with a lot of big city east coasters…and I definitely don’t fit in here either. Here, it’s not so much the religion thing, but the whole I’m from the west coast thing. People on the east coast are very different from what I’m used to. Although I didn’t COMPLETELY fit in back in Utah…I had gotten used to it and had found my place with a lot of friends and family…in DC, it’s even harder to fit in and I don’t think I’ve found my place. A lot of times I feel like the dumb, uneducated, ignorant, unhealthy, fat, frizzy blonde with hardly any friends living in this city. Now let me explain why I feel that way. It seems like everybody else here is very well educated with at least a Masters Degree (I went to SLCC and did generals so far is all…I want to do more…but it got put on hold for my boyfriend’s education…so now I’m 24 and very uneducated in comparison). Everybody in DC is very into politics…obviously (I have never really been into politics because my friends and I back home in Utah always had more fun things to do than sit around talking politics…and we liked to talk about funny things and laugh the majority of the time…not be so damn serious all the time). People here are VERY career driven (I’d rather enjoy life and my family with an average amount of money than work 24/7 and not even be able to enjoy my family or my money). I’ve noticed east coasters aren’t nearly as friendly and it’s a lot harder to make friends (in Utah people are very friendly and caring and giving whereas here people are kind of unfriendly and self-centered and snooty). Everybody I’ve met around here eats healthy…like all no fat organic tasteless stuff…and they turn their noses up to a good pizza or burger joint (I grew up in a home where almost everything had cheese in it and we ate a lot of food that came in cans and boxes and made a lot of casseroles because it was cheap and fast and easy and it TASTED GOOD…and we would make treats all the time and so would friends and neighbors and we’d share them without people turning them down…and my friends and I loved to go get fattening pizza or burgers and fries and shakes…and my favorite foods as a kid were mac and cheese and hot dogs and root beer…which I don’t think that’s bad for a kid to like that stuff!! I mean don’t feed your kids that crap in excess but don’t be such a damn granola either…you’re kids not gonna die if he eats a hot dog…and you as an adult don’t have to weigh 100 lbs in your stupid business suit and just have a salad every meal) SO, as you can tell, I don’t feel like I fit in this east coast big city “culture”. Sometimes, to be honest, it can really get me down to live in a place that I feel so out of place.
  •  If you could change something about yourself (inner/outer) would you? If so, what and why? If not, Why?
- I would love to change some things about me. I would love to change my weight (or my genes that make it so hard for me to lose weight and so easy to gain it ha). I’ve reached a point where I feel disgusted with myself and my weight actually hurts my back and feet a lot. I get depressed about my weight a lot lately and think I look terrible most days. I would love to get rid of my anxiety/depression…but more so anxiety these days. It’s a very hard thing to deal with and can cause stress on my relationship with my boyfriend sometimes. I know I could get on medicine but I don’t want to because I feel like meds can make you kind of like a zombie sometimes and I’d rather have extreme feelings than feel no emotions at all. PLUS I don’t have health insurance being a nanny. I would love to change my sensitive skin. My skin is so sensitive it causes me to break out still and I get rashes and hives really easy and I just feel like I’m always splotchy and gross looking (on my face and legs especially). Lastly, I would love to change some mistakes I made in the past…which I know is not good and blah blah blah your past is what made you who you are…but still there are some things from my past that really haunt me.
  •  Who do you think you are today?
- I don’t know haha. I’m a 24 year old chubby, not very attractive, uneducated, made a lot of mistakes in my past, homesick nanny that’s working hard to pay the bills and fit in in a city I don’t really like so the boyfriend I love and am very very lucky to have can go to law school. That’s how I honestly feel. Especially after opening up and writing all of my emotions and problems and things I would change about myself above hahaha.
  •   What do you love about yourself? –I’m caring and loving and a hard worker and have amazing family and friends that I miss very much.
  •  What does true beauty mean to you? – I’m not sure. Somebody that loves and accepts everybody…hasn’t made a lot of shameful mistakes…is always looking out for others and puts others before themselves…is naturally pretty…I mean I really don’t know…those are just things about others that I see and think it makes them truly beautiful I guess…ya know those people that just kinda have that “aura” about them when you see them or are around them.

  • How has the culture impacted the way you feel about yourself?- If we’re talking about Utah’s culture, this is the only state I’ve lived in outside of a two-year stretch in the Midwest. I grew up in Sandy but have lived mainly in Salt Lake City the past 20-plus years. Being a native Utahn gives me great confidence and I am completely comfortable with all aspects of our great culture.
  • If you could change something about yourself (inner/outer) would you? If so, what and why? If not, Why?
- Obviously there are certain aspects of myself/personality that could be improved, but I am who I am and don’t feel the need to ‘change’ anything. Sometimes I wish I had more drive, more zest for life. That might an age thing. I have great capacities and need to just work on being a better person. The most important thing to me is how I treat other people. I’d like to think I abide by the ‘Golden Rule’ in most situations, but sometimes I find myself swearing at lame-ass drivers or quickly judging people in general based on their looks, actions, etc.
  • Who do you think you are today?
- Someone who needs a hug.
  • What do you love about yourself? – I don’t particularly ‘love’ anything about myself right now. In a funky mode right now.
  • What does true beauty mean to you? – True beauty is the ability to love others for who they are, what they represent, regardless of looks, physical nature/characteristics, social status, race, color, religious affiliation, etc.

Hey! I’m Elise from Elise’s Pieces. I’m excited to be visiting on Kyndra’s blog today!

  •   How has the culture impacted the way you feel about yourself? – There area a lot of things in our media today that tell me how I should look, feel, act, and be. With our culture, I totally feel the pressure to have perfect, clear skin and a size 2 waist. But, that’s totally not me.
  • If you could change something about yourself (inner/outer) would you? If so, what and why? If not, Why? – I would totally change my skin. I would love to not have to worry about break outs or blemishes.
  • Who do you think you are today? –I am a daughter of God. I am not a model, an actress, or a pageant queen. But I like who I am. I am proud to be me.
  • What do you love about yourself? – I may not be perfect, but I have learned I am beautiful. Sure, there are things I would like to change, but I am happy regardless.

  •   What does true beauty mean to you? – True beauty is knowing who you are and being confident in spite your flaws.

  • How has the culture impacted the way you feel about yourself? – It makes you feel like you need to be a size 4 or 6 to be beautiful. You see all these celebrities that when they start out have beautiful curves or averaged sized bodies. Then they get a personal training and get down to a size 2-4 and tell everyone how fabulous they feel. Even celebrities with bigger body parts like Kim Kardashian or Jennifer Lopez swear they are no bigger than a size four and can’t weigh more than 120 pounds. It makes you feel because you swear a size 8-14 that you can never be as beautiful or as talented as them. Or that is what we are lead to believe. Also in the media, most people are a personality 4 that have ageless or timeless beauty. Well most people aren’t a type 4 and this can make people feel like they have something wrong with them. Because they are more goofy or serious than the “typical” type 4 person.
  • If you could change something about yourself (inner/outer) would you? – If so, what and why? If not, Why? – I think if anyone says no to this question they are a liar. I have wanted to lose weight and fit back into my high school jeans. After having 2 kids and being 20 pounds heavier than when I was 17 has made me feel like I’ve let myself go. It’s hard for me to accept being 150 pounds and a size 10, even though that is in no way huge or fat or obese. I’m in the normal scale for my height but feel like I need to be 130 pounds and size six. Or after having kids your boobs go through a drastic change so I’ve wanted to get surgery to make them perky again. Someone told me different is does not mean worse. And when I start to get down on myself, I think those very words.
  • Who do you think you are today? – Today I think I am a strong, beautiful, intelligent, motivated, loving woman. I still have my days where I feel less superior to everyone else. But then realize beauty is in the eye of the beholder and it doesn’t matter what other people think as long as I think I’m beautiful.
  • What do you love about yourself? – I pretty much love my eyeballs and my hair. I mean they are kind of something amazing.
  • What does true beauty mean to you? – True beauty is what you make of it and what you think about it. It is how you are as a person but not merely what you look like. You can get all the plastic surgery to change your looks, but if you suck as a person you’ll still be ugly to the people around you.

  •  How has the culture impacted the way you feel about yourself? –  Growing up, I definitely felt pressure from culture and society to have certain traits and attitudes to fit in.  Now that I’m an adult, I feel that culture is advancing.  Being gay, and seeing how much gay support there is in American culture these days, is really awesome!
  • If you could change something about yourself (inner/outer) would you? If so, what and why? If not, Why?   If I could change something about myself, I wouldn’t.  I’ve grown to have a healthy respect for my inner and outer self, and I realize that we are all unique and to change anything might dim our natural brilliance and shine.  🙂
  • Who do you think you are today? – Today, I think that I am a good person with a good heart, who is learning to love myself and others.  I am trying to live in a world free of prejudice and judgement.. so far, so good!
  • What do you love about yourself? – I love my freedom.  I feel that I am a liberated person, and hope someday everybody can free themselves too, that would be amazing.
  • What does true beauty mean to you? – True beauty is when somebody radiates light, knowledge, compassion, passion, and love.  I used to think true beauty was a person with gorgeous looks.  Now I feel that true beauty is definitely an inner trait.  Anybody can radiate true beauty by loving themselves, being grateful for themselves, and keeping that child-like sparkle and enthusiasm we were all born with.  🙂
  • How has the culture impacted the way you feel about yourself? – People’s/society’s notions on fitness and religion affected my views growing up and I felt guilty if I didn’t match or exceed the “norms” of my peers.  When I got older I shifted my friends to those who love me exactly as I am and encourage my strength and individuality.
  •  If you could change something about yourself (inner/outer) would you? If so, what and why? If not, Why? – I shift aspects of my old and destructive habits all the time.  Anger, Rage, Frustration, Humiliation, Fear, Hate, Pain…  All these things affect me from time to time, especially when I allow myself to be caught up in the emotional storm and confusion.  Luckily I have life tools such as Zo Klimowicz’s “Shift Equation” and Impact Trainings to shift my environment and create a friendly tsunami that washes over my environment and creates a new world ready for whatever I choose to manifest 😉
  • Who do you think you are today? – I KNOW that I AM a Loving Joyful Powerful Spiritual Man!  I’m an expert at loving people unconditionally and serve as a pro bono life coach to many of my friends and loved ones…  and sometimes to random people who choose to open up to me even when it’s our first time meeting…  I Love Heart-to-Heart Connections, they are so powerful and empowering for everyone involved!
  •  What do you love about yourself? – I LOVE ALL THAT I AM ALL THE TIME!!!  It took me a while to embrace myself exactly as I AM all of the time, but as I wake in the morning and start the day loving myself my entire world instantly brightens with hope and possibilities.  Love is the energy of the Universe!!!
  •  What does true beauty mean to you? – True Beauty manifests from within, the eye cannot see it nor can the mind quantify it, but the heart knows it undeniably every time it peeks through the veil of apathy or rises above the emotional walls that society and individuals build to “protect” themselves.  True Beauty is a laugh at the “wrong” time, True Beauty is standing up despite everything that seems to weigh you down, True Beauty is the homeless man, True Beauty is the soldier willing to lay down their life for those in need, True Beauty is the doctor who volunteers their time and skills at the community free clinic, True Beauty is being thoroughly and passionately ALL that you are All of the time regardless of who is looking and especially when nobody is looking.
  1. September 27, 2011 at 11:26 pm

    An excellent start! I look forward to seeing this project take off and shift the world… Blessed BE!

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