Proposal

We should be working as a team who is determined to spread the message of self-love like wildfire and revolutionize the way our generation sees ourselves and each other. This self-love revolution starts with you and me and then it is bound to spread like wildfire igniting hope, love, respect and acceptance for all. So please always remember that you are amazing because of who you are in this very moment, not because of what you could be. Everything that you will never be is nothing close to everything that you already are. You are not the size of your jeans or the number on the scale. Your worth can never be contained by a simple lifeless number. Your body is not a battleground and you have every right to feel respected, accepted and loved in your own skin.

We cut, wax, color, clip, pluck, straighten, shave, and curl. We lift, curl, run, squat, and sweat. We spend far too long staring back at that person in the mirror, scrutinizing, worrying, and wishing. Wishing that our stomach could be just a little bit flatter, that our arms could be a little more toned, that our legs could be longer. Wishing we could look just like the people we see in the office, the grocery store, the mall, movies, television, friends. Fantasizing and pretending, telling ourselves “if only.” It happens because we’re getting messages thrown at us everywhere we look – we watch shows that tell us we’re not good enough, we read magazines that tell us to work harder, and we take diet pills that only take off our self-esteem. Ad campaigns for stores and clothing lines feature women who you wish you could look like in your dreams.

We feel worthless, repulsive, flawed, and never good enough. We’re exhausted both physically and mentally both day in and day out from everything life gives us. We constantly compare ourselves to others and fall short of the images we see, our ideals, and expectations. We aim so high and are shocked when we can’t make the mark, when in reality, our own beauty isn’t dependent on who we would like to be.

So where does beauty come from? Where can it be found? I can assure you it isn’t hidden in the words of any beauty, diet, or fitness magazine article. It doesn’t come in a 12 can pack and promise a smaller waistline. It’s not something that comes out when it is covered up with makeup or ejected from a needle, and it doesn’t come included with jewelry or price tags. You won’t find it on a treadmill or in the weight room. No – beauty is what lies within you.

Real, natural, strong, and powerful beauty comes from within your heart. It blossoms like a flower in spring and encourages such an appealing, captivating, exquisite spirit that cannot be contained. A confident individual is a force to be reckoned with! Nothing can stop them, and nothing can get them down. I have both witnessed and experienced this. I have been where many of you have been, currently are, and, sadly, will be.

I have hit rock bottom more than once. But I have come so far where I used to be with the realization I am about to share with you. From one human being to another, take these words fully: you are beautiful, just the way you are. You, right now, as you are reading this, are enough. In this moment, today, tomorrow, and forever; Just as you are. Be confident with the person you have grown to be. There will never be another you, so why would you try to be like someone else? Beauty comes in different forms for every individual. You are natural, wonderful, healthy, fabulous, and unique. That’s what you are, and that’s what beauty is.

I propose that we start having self-esteem exercises as early as 5th grade. Last time I went to school they gave us the big “your body is changing” speech and that’s where things started to change for everyone. This is the prime spot to start talking about self-esteem, self-worth, and just about the little things in life. I believe that if we start early we can help the men and women of our future feel more comfortable being them then trying to fit into the “perfect” mold. Young minds aren’t cluttered by the little things of life, but they still absorb everything like sponges.  Hence why we should start younger and give them something to look at, something to think about.

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  1. Jackie
    December 5, 2011 at 10:09 pm

    Kyndra,

    I really enjoyed the message you are sharing: that we all have worth, no matter our differences. I agree that it is a very important message, one that has the power to help a lot of people…..however…..

    It wasn’t clear to me what exactly you are proposing?

    Do you have an agenda in mind? Are you planning to propose something like…..Middle schools should offer self esteem classes……or…..barbie dolls should be banned from toy stores….or….new parents should be given classes on how to foster positive self images in their children….or…get the idea? 🙂

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